Loneliness

Is the presence of another person with an individual, important for the psychological well being of this individual or not? Can we live alone in an absolute solitude, and feel stable mentally and happy? Were individuals in the animal kingdom, especially mammals and particularly the Homo Sapiens species - also known as - the human being, were created to live apart, dispersed, separated and disconnected? If so why have the Creator provided us with external facial features, secondary sexual characters, why do we have a voice, why we have muscles in the face? And why have we been divided in two sexes? Can we live on a remote island, alone even if we are totally free and with all the basic needs and resources free available and easily reachable?

The answer is that the presence of another person with us, is so mandatory to live and survive. Let alone for mental stability and happiness. Moreover, a group of people, whether family, colleagues, neighbors or friends as long as they cooperate together, provide each other with support, security, material and spiritual well being.

Even Robinson Crusoe was not happy on his island. He sought companionship with animals by raising a small herd of goats, but this was not enough. On releasing Friday from cannibals, though being black man and savage, Crusoe founds in him a true human being. Despite being different in language, civilization, manners, religion, race, color, but he was a human despite all that. So to a blissful relief, Crusoe was in company of a fellow human being. But to overcome obstacles of communication, he started to teach Friday, English.

The wise Egyptian proverb says (A paradise without people, couldn’t be stepped in).

People are not foes or hell like once stated Sartre. For with people we exhibit our humanity, we fulfill ourselves, and complete our defects. We can’t fall in love with a tree or a rock if we are completely sane. It takes another person to find love, whether you are a man or a woman.

Loneliness is destructive to one’s psyche. It can prove also dangerous on the material side of life. Let alone, the loss of emotional life and sexual life. The lonely person can enter into a vicious circle of fears, worries, and depressions. This can be complicated if he or she doesn’t have friends or has cut off the ties with them. And worse if the person confines himself or herself into a place, never getting out except very seldom, the situation can get more gloomy. Getting out to see people in the streets, to breathe air, to feel the warmth of the sun, to feel the vibrations of the real life, to experience the hassle and the noise of the daily activities, is useful to the individual. Friends are a bless, but they have to be real ones so that they will be available to meet, interact, cherish. Communicating via phone, cellular, short messages, e-mails or written letters, can complement real life meetings between people and can be a psychological remedy in many instances.