Reflections about the social networking groups of the Internet

   Many times, I have deeply thought, especially after communication problems while chatting with some people on the Web or getting angry from a bad reaction, an unacceptable post, non-ethical comment or disgusting message, that social networking sites are problematic more than beneficial, viewing that they are condensation of life but in the virtual electronic world. People, that are shielded by distance, non-touch, freedom from shyness, and immunity from physical retaliation, tend to be unreal at many times, in the sense of embellishment by disguising themselves not only in their identities, names and pictures but in their attitudes, style of response, selection of words and language (sordid or clean) and reaction whether quiet or bursting, as well.  

   Social networking  groups especially closed and secret groups are like hungry sharks, roaming to catch edible fishes with an unabated satiety. Alas, some think that social utilities on the Internet are like washing machines, they always need to be fed by fresh detergents. Thus, the electronic friendship tied there is not real and solid, but is bubbly, liable to burst by any simple gust of wind. What is the benefit of collecting 'friends' on your Facebook account? And why you have so much vanity with the high numbers of friends you have got, as long as you do not care to connect, electronically in a fair way and frequently with them? And the more important why is it not important to you to tie a real-life friendship with these friends, using the tool of the social utility? And why you do care to sanctify the tool and slide into the vice of worshiping yourself?

Psychologically speaking, is the accumulation of hundreds, not to say thousands sometimes of friends, on your Facebook account, is healthy? How you can cope with communicating with such a huge number of persons assumed to be 'friends' at any one time? 

   Differentiation from real life authentic friendship and the sham electronic friendship, is important. I think that for a person to be considered as an authentic friend, requires many criteria. You have to meet the person in real life, face to face even once, and have a conversation with him/her either casually or voluntary, but smart and deep. The two parties, have to find some sort of common ground, sympathy, and to be certain of the real identity of the person candidate for friendship, not to mention a quick appraisal of the person's values and attitude to Life in general.These criteria are not feasible through the Internet communication, even in Skype or alike video conferencing. To this end, one must know that the term, 'friend' in the social networking sites, is not accurate, and it is better as one friend suggested 'contact'. One has to be true to himself and know that it is a mirage not a real oasis. So it is completely accepted to detach yourself from a group, contact or friend, once you know that it is nuisance not a good experience.